To be brutally frank, this became a relationship deal breaker for me after a guy I dated when I lived in Memphis said that and it became crystal clear that yes, it had screwed him up.
Corporal punishment is illegal in Israel and has been since 2000. I have no idea how much this is enforced or how well it's enforced, but it's a start. I know that my brother-in-law doesn't use it on his two boys, and that my sister-in-law has managed to raise seven kids without hitting any of them. And all of them are well-adjusted, sweet, well-behaved kids and grownups (okay, I'm prejudiced).
You're right about boys not getting hit once they get big enough to hit back. My father-in-law's abusive stepfather quit hitting him when he was a teenager. He just kicked him out of the house. As for me, my mom cited my willingness to hit her back as evidence of how deranged and violent I was. Classic DARVO.
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Corporal punishment is illegal in Israel and has been since 2000. I have no idea how much this is enforced or how well it's enforced, but it's a start. I know that my brother-in-law doesn't use it on his two boys, and that my sister-in-law has managed to raise seven kids without hitting any of them. And all of them are well-adjusted, sweet, well-behaved kids and grownups (okay, I'm prejudiced).
You're right about boys not getting hit once they get big enough to hit back. My father-in-law's abusive stepfather quit hitting him when he was a teenager. He just kicked him out of the house. As for me, my mom cited my willingness to hit her back as evidence of how deranged and violent I was. Classic DARVO.